As you may have noticed the posts you find in this blog have a lot to do with your self, dating, and devotionals. There may have been different expectations considering the name of the blogsite is teensexualpurity.com. I firmly believe that there are many elements to remaining sexually pure that doesn’t necessarily have to rely on statistics and stating the consequences of premarital sex. They do serve their purpose by giving you a real picture and I’m not saying I will never utilize these tools but I do believe that we must first get to the heart of the matter. Here are some elements to remaining sexually pure that are worth looking at:
~You must have a relationship with God (Father, Son, Holy Spirit).– This is the very first element because it is the MOST important. I would NOT have been able to stay sexually pure if I didn’t have a relationship (talking, praying, reading, having personal experiences) with God. He gave me strength, He gave others discernment when things got too far, and He sent people to safeguard us knowingly and unknowingly. If you don’t have him in your life, your fight is that much harder. Use the buddy system!
“I can do everything through him who gives me strength” (Philippians 4:13, NIV).
~You need a strong and confident sense of self.– Your self-esteem is so important because when it’s strong, you know who you are, you know what you are worth, and you are not going to settle. However, when it’s weak it’s so much easier to fall for deception in the form of compliments to the point where you are willing to do anything to keep that person in your life. Building up your self-esteem sets a strong foundation for when you are in a relatioship.
~He needs to be on the same page!– Both of you have to agree on remaining sexually pure and both of you have to have a strong relationship with the Lord. There were times when my husband was weak and I was strong and there were times when I was weak and my husband was strong.
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14, NIV).
I know this seems harsh but it’s reality. You have better chances at survival if you are on the same page! It’s a war out there…(half kidding..loll)!!
~Get a team of supporters.– The more people that know your goals, the better. Get an accountability partner, tell both sets of parents/siblings/relatives, and talk to your Pastor. For more about finding the right people to help you, click here.
In my opinion, these are some of the most important elements to help you remain sexually pure. I pray they will help you along in your journey. You are worth the wait!
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