Skinny vs. Fat
It’s EVERYwhere!! The pressure to be the perfect size, length, width, age, color, you name it. Ladies are constantly pinned against each other telling the other one their [enter body shape, part, hair, whatever here] is better. Whether it’s someone calling the other too fat or one calling the other too skinny, we are constantly bashing the other type. What do we get from it?
I can tell you what we get. We get anorexia, bulimia, depression, cutting, bullying, suicide, cutting, all in the hands of which side of society/culture we are from. Can we as women change this? I believe we can.
God created ALL of us. We are called to LOVE each other regardless of what we look like because there is beauty in all of His creation. His word states, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well” (Psalm 139:14). Like my dear friend said during bible study one morning, “God does not make copies, only originals.”
Here are some helpful suggestions to help guide us back to looking at each other with new eyes:
Tip #1: Compliment– Let’s try complimenting instead of complaining. Finding the beauty in the person and being able to say so turns jealousy (which is the root of your mumblings) into admiration and possibly a new friendship.
Original Thought: “Look at her! She thinks she’s so cute with those shoes on. She can’t even walk. Pssh!”
New Thought: “Wow, those shoes are really cute, girl. Where did you get them?”
Tip #2: Confidence: Be confident in who God created YOU to be. We each have our own talents and abilities. They are not all the same. That’s ok. We just need to figure what we are best at and focus on that.
Original Thought: “Look at her showing off. She thinks she’s so hot because she’s the Captain of the basketball team. She’s not even the best player.”
New Thought: “Her hard work is inspiring. If I put that much energy into mastering my singing then I could really start doing what I love.”
Tip #3: Knowledge: Feelings get in the way most of the time. We can be overcome by feelings of insecurity, not being good enough, and low self-esteem. In the scripture above, it ends by saying, “I know that full well.” Notice it says know not feel.
Original Thought: “She is so much more prettier than me. If only I had her body, then I would get his attention.”
New Thought: “She’s beautiful her way and I’m beautiful my way. That boy isn’t worth my time all he does is stare at girls’ bodies.”
I pray this will help us stop tearing each other down and start loving each other the way Jesus calls us to. “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing” (1 Thess. 5:11). Compliment someone today!
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