Is He Cheating on Me?: 8 Tips and Questions to Ask Yourself
So, things seem a little bit off lately between you and your boyfriend. People may be saying things, you may not be sure whom to believe, or he may seem a little distant. Either way you want to figure out if he is cheating on you. Unfortunately, I’ve definitely been there more than once and have been able to pick up a few cues when something isn’t right. Here are a few tips/questions to consider when facing infidelity:
Tip #1- Ask– Why not just come right out and ask him? If you are in a healthy relationship, then you should be able to communicate to him any concerns or questions you may have. If he gets overly upset or tries to throw you under the bus, this may be a red flag that something is up! He may just be going through something but you’ll never know if you don’t ask.
Tip #2- Avoidance– Have you asked the question and he’s avoiding giving you a direct answer? Avoiding the question may mean he’s trying to cover something up, doesn’t want to lie to you, or hurt your feelings. Look for a yes or no answer.
Tip #3- Change of behavior- Does he seem to be ignoring your calls/texts? Has he stopped being affectionate? If he is behaving in a way that isn’t his normal behavior with you, then he may either be slowly trying to break it off or already has someone else taking up his time. Feel it out for a few days, if it doesn’t change then ask.
Tip #4- Pray– God cares about you and there is NO ONE better to ask than the Almighty. He sees it all. However, when you ask Him for revelation/truth also ask Him to prepare you for the answer because you may not like it.
Tip #5- Watch– How does he behave around other girls? Is he flirtatious? Usually you can tell a player by the way he behaves when in the presence of other females. He may be touchy, flirty, and eye girls down like they are a piece of meat and he hasn’t eaten all day. Watch and see. If he does it in front of your face, he’ll do it behind your back. Click here for more advice on how to spot Mr. Right from Mr. Right Now.
Tip #6- Hidden treasures– Did you find a piece of clothing that’s not yours? Makeup? Jewelry? Where did you find it? It’s hard to cheat and not leave evidence behind especially if it’s a continuous thing. Also, the area in which you found it is important. His sister’s shirt wouldn’t be stuck in between his car seats or in his bag/locker.
Tip #7- Appearance/Fragrance– Does he have glitter on his neck? Is his lip-gloss popping but he ain’t got no lip-gloss? Does he smell like Taylor Swift’s Wonderstruck? Mmm hmm, you guessed correctly. Someone might be getting a little too close for comfort. If he’s in a relationship with you, girls should not be getting close enough that stuff starts rubbing off.
Tip #8- Worth– Is this relationship worth the pain you’re experiencing? Does he deserve another chance? This is up to you. If you find out that he is cheating, do you want to continue the relationship? Look everyone makes mistakes but if he does it more than twice, its emotionally abusive and its time to move on.
Take it from the Lord, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jer. 29:11). This simply means he wants the best for you. It is very difficult to have future filled with hope and joy if you don’t trust the one you are with. Put God first and He will give you answers, direction, and most of all…the right person. Blessings!
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