In Memorial of Amanda Todd: 5 Tips to Help Restore a Damaged Reputation
A colleague of mine in the youth ministry posted a story on my page about a girl named Amanda Todd. Some of you may have already heard the story. As I sat there reading all the cards where she outlined her life, there were many things that stuck out. One of them was the fact that her reputation was damaged after making one mistake that was revealed to an unforgiving crowd. She attempted to salvage her reputation by changing schools to start over, only for history to repeat itself. Unfortunately, this was too much and she ended up taking her life.
So what do you do if you find yourself in a similar situation? You may have done or said something that you regret or has been twisted in such a way where you now find yourself the focus of an unforgiving audience. How do you survive? Here are some tips that may help you restore your name and emotionally heal in the process:
1) Pray about it– Turning to God will help give you the strength you need to get up in the morning, walk down your hallways, look at yourself in the mirror, whatever normal activity that you are now having a hard time doing.
“For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength” (Philip. 4:13)
2) Find support– Do NOT try to do this alone. It doesn’t have to be just your friends. It could be parents, a teacher, Youth Leader, Pastor, relatives, guidance counselor, someone you work for, you can even email me (seriously…loll). You need someone who can pray for you because there may be a time when you don’t have the energy to pray for yourself.
“But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness” (Hebrews 3:13).
3) Wait it out– Just like Amanda’s story may have already been forgotten by some, your situation will eventually filter itself out. I know…I know, it’s definitely easier said than done. While you are waiting, remind yourself of who you were before all of this happened. If you need reminding, ask someone you trust.
4) Deal with your feelings– There is going to be a time where you just feel like you are vomiting emotion. It could be anywhere from anger to frustration to depression. Deal with them. Feelings have this funny way of coming out when we try to stuff them and then we might end up doing more things we will regret.
5) Lay low– Did you ever hear that saying, “Out of sight, out of mind”? Now, it may not be possible during school hours but if there are extra curricular activities you can avoid for a period of time it will probably be best if you do. This can include parties, school dances, going to games, whatever that looks like for you. It’s not to be confused with running away from your problems. You are just taking a social break to heal and refocus.
Remember there is NOTHING too difficult for our God to overcome. “God is our refuge and strength, always ready to help in times of trouble” (Psalm 46:1). For advice on recovering from mistakes, click here.
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