Church Friends vs. School Friends: Do you separate the two?
I recently started watching a show called, “Preacher’s Daughters”. I was interested to see/hear the perspective of teenagers growing up in the church and if it held any truth to the stories/experiences I hear from my teens. You know with television it can be very hard determining what’s “Hollywood” and what’s not. However, I found the stories to be similar with some of the stories I’ve heard from the teens I have mentored.
One of the things I found to be similar was the separation of church friends vs. school friends. Do you do the same thing? Some teens really don’t want to or just don’t invite their school friends to church events and vice versa. When I have asked why, some responses were somewhat innocent. However, the separation of the two is something to consider. Here are some questions I’m going to ask you to help you get an idea of why this is something to look at.
1) What are you hiding?
2) If there are certain behaviors you don’t want them (either school friends or church friends) to see, can you give yourself an honest reason why?
3) Are you ashamed of Christ or are you ashamed of your life?
4) Can you make a change or do you even WANT to make a change?
5) If you don’t care to, why?
6) If you do this in one area of your life, are there other areas you keep separate from “church” life?
7) If you truly care about those friends that aren’t saved, wouldn’t you like to be a part of them experiencing God again or maybe for the first time?
8) Has God truly made it to your heart?
9) Would you stop smoking if the man of your dreams asked you to?
10) Would you stop cursing because you knew it made the person you love uncomfortable?
We need to understand putting on the “church” self and then changing out of it as soon as we get home is a lie. “A double minded man is unstable in all his ways” (James 1:8, KJV). God doesn’t want you to look, act, speak a certain way because you feel you HAVE to. He wants you to change for the better because you LOVE Him.
Usually when I ask these questions, I sort of answer them for you but this time I really want you to answer them for yourself. The things we do in one area of our life spills into other areas of our lives. In this journey of sexual purity, we must understand the behaviors and habits we form NOW will be a part of our marriage if we don’t stop and start to change for the better. “You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love” (Galatians 5:13).
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