Updated: January 25, 2019
Christian Teen Dating Advice: 3 Tips for Teen Relationship Problems
Christian teen dating advice can may help you avoid constant teen relationship problems. Have you asked yourself, “Why is there always drama with my relationships?” or “Why can’t I stay in a relationship?” We are going to talk about a few possibilities. Click here for some questions to ask before going on a date.
One of my teens recently confided in me that she had a crush on someone. This news was a little shocking because of the controversy (cough:player) surrounding this person of interest and their dating history of a new girl every week.
Wanting her to feel comfortable and safe in opening up I asked her what she liked about him. She told me, “Well I think he’s funny and has a nice personality.” I replied, “Fair enough but what do you think about all the drama with him and his prior dating partners (one of them being her close friend)?” “Well I feel stupid for liking him and I don’t know why I do or what to do.”
Now she is not the first and definitely won’t be the last person to feel silly for falling for someone who is not the best choice but the question still remains, what does she do now?
The enemy loves to tempt Godly ladies with “bad boys.”
You see the enemy is not going to tempt you with the kid who annoys you in 6th period class or the guy who has been friendzoned. He will tempt you with the “bad” boy, the one who pushes limits, rebellious, challenging to authority, and possibly a nonbeliever (click HERE for another post about bad boys).
Regardless, you must also remember what the Word of God says, “….God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it” (1 Cor. 10:13). Read on for some tips on what to do when faced with this dilemma.
3 Tips for Teen Relationship Problems
There’s at least ONE quality in everyone that makes them desirable.
The tip here is to look at the WHOLE package.
Sure he may be funny but ask yourself a few questions. Is it at the expense of others? Is he just trying to get attention from girls including yourself? Is it appropriate? What other traits are there about him? Who does he hang out with? Is he prone to getting into trouble? Does he have anger issues?
These are all important questions because you WILL get dragged into his drama.
Is it worth it? Even if you think it is, is it glorifying to God?
“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” (Eph. 4:29)
I know this is the most difficult thing for anyone especially in this world of instant self-gratification. At the click of a button, we can have what we want, when we want, and if it isn’t received at the time we want it, we can demand our money back.
It doesn’t work this way with love.
The key to knowing if someone is truly into you versus being next on his list is to wait.
How long? You will have to seek the Lord about that. In my teen’s case, it only took a couple of weeks to see his true colors.
Honestly guys who are just looking for the next victim to stroke his ego won’t wait long to move onto the next girl. It’s better to find out now rather than investing in more time and feelings only to see him walk down the hall with another girl as a sign of him breaking up with you.
“For you have need of endurance, so that when you have done the will of God you may receive what is promised.” (Heb. 10:36).
You want to start a relationship on the right foot not only with God but with others too. I’m going to give a little inside secret especially when it comes to girls and their friendships with each other.
If your friend dated somebody, by no means should their ex even be an option for you.
Even if she says, “I don’t care. You can date him.” Don’t do it. Never date your friend’s ex. The drama is simply not worth it.
A healthy relationship will bring people together not drive them apart.
Also, there is strength in numbers. If this is the person for you, then you want a few prayer warriors on your side. Especially those friends who have grown to know you through the years and vice versa.
“Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but he who makes his ways crooked will be found out.” (Prov.10:9)
I wish I could say it worked out with my teen and her love interest but it didn’t. Everything stated above, is the advice I gave to her. She took the advice and saw for herself the reality of who this person was.
My job is not to be right but to give you and the rest of my teens tools to be able to make the best decision for your life.
My teen was a little brokenhearted but not as brokenhearted as the girl he broke up with the week before. Only to ask her out again and yes she did take him back and it lasted a couple of weeks before he moved on AGAIN. Don’t settle. You are worth more. Date smart!
“Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.” (Eph. 5:15-17)
Baskets of Blessings!