A Tribute to Amanda Todd: 7 Tips To Help You Recover From Mistakes
I’m sure at this point everyone may have heard about Amanda Todd. She was a beautiful young girl who made ONE mistake, which then snowballed into a series of events that claimed her life. My heart grieved for this girl. She was alone. She had NO ONE. Watch her story here.
So what do you do if you are in her situation? What if you grew up in a Christian household, went to a Christian school, dated a Christian boy, and somewhere along the line you messed up? What if you don’t know God and you did something where you knew you messed up and now you are lost?
It could be anything. A kiss, he touched a part of your body, you touched his, you sent him inappropriate pictures, you Skyped and did inappropriate things, you went all the way. Whatever messed up looks like to YOU. Sometimes we go by what other people see as little or big mess-ups instead of our own individual convictions. Whatever that is, here are some ways to get you back on track:
1) Deal with the problem– What I mean by this is don’t run from it. Amanda went to several different schools and the problem chased her. Someone needed to help her deal with the problem in a healthy way. By confronting the other kids WITH parents, teachers, and anyone she trusts, this situation could’ve been nipped in the bud.
2) Find trustworthy adults– If there is a teacher you really like, guidance counselor, security guard, Youth Leader, blogger (ahem:cough…me), someone who is NOT a peer and you trust, let them know. Ask God for the right people to help you figure out the best way to handle the situation.
3) Create a gameplan– Set some goals with those you trust and put a timeline on how long you should wait before taking further action. For instance, sometimes you have to wait it out when things like this happen. However, if it’s like six months or you are at your point of, “I’ve had enough!”, and people are still on you about it then it may be time to bring someone else in. It takes time for the “hype” to go down but it shouldn’t take forever.
4) Stand your ground– Amanda made a mistake and the kids turned on her. They called her every name in the book. She was afraid. As difficult it may seem, remember who you are in Christ. Hold on to what He thinks of you:
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come” (2 Corinthians 5:17).
“The LORD is my light and my salvation, Whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life, Whom shall I be afraid?” (Psalm 27:1)
You mess up one minute, the next SECOND you can ask for forgiveness and help from the Almighty.
5) Lean on God – There are things that we CANNOT do ourselves. That may be standing up to a whole school of your peers, confronting a guy that’s harassing you, getting the school involved. God will help you by giving you strength, knowledge, and people to help. “Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God; trust also in me” (John 14:1).
6) Remember you are human- We make mistakes! I’ve made so many and when I was in 7th grade I wanted to take my life. I look back and think about everything I would’ve missed out on if I did. I continue to make mistakes up until this day. Here is one scripture a dear friend gave me that helped me put things in perspective, “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free…” (Romans 8:1-2). You are free from your mistakes. Claim Him!
7) Reset some boundaries- It may be time to talk to your boyfriend or friends about some guidelines when hanging out. Let them know what you are trying to achieve and ask for their help. This can also go into your game plan. People respond more positively when they feel like they are helping you with something.
Whatever you do, don’t do it alone. There is strength in numbers. The enemy wants you to think that you are the ONLY one who has ever done that one thing. There is more to life, you, and God than that one moment you messed up. Rest in peace, Amanda Todd. I pray through your story thousands of lives will be changed. Blessings!
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