Abuse: 7 Signs You May Be In An Abusive Relationship
Ladies, if there is one thing we should NEVER settle for, it’s abuse. We are told when we are growing up, “If he hits you, it’s because he likes you.” Wrong! A healthy relationship does not include violence in ANY form. No one has the right to put their hands on you and vice versa. There are many forms of abuse including emotional, mental, physical, and sexual. Here are some signs that you may be in an abusive relationship:
1) He physically abuses you– This may be an obvious sign but some girls may not recognize it either because they have seen it done to other people (so they think it’s natural) or because they have never been in a relationship before. This unwanted physical contact can be anywhere from pushing, pulling, pinching, smacking, punching, being held down by force, grabbing, or anything else that may leave you scared or confused. Please go to someone you trust and ask for help.
2) He calls you negative names– This can be anywhere from using curse words, threatening you, talks down to you, attacks your character or appearance, says things that are meant to hurt, or using your past against you. It’s so important to have a relationship with God because He will give you discernment on what is and what is not okay.
3) You are embarrassed of him– When people are abusive they may not only be abusive to you. This can carry over into their everyday communication with people. If you find yourself embarrassed by the way he talks to your friends/family/anyone in general, then I would suggest you take an honest look at the relationship because one day he may be talking to your kids that way.
4) He forces you to do things– If you feel pressured to do sexual things or say things to people you care about that you don’t mean, then you may need help getting out of the relationship. Once you start losing your voice, it may be difficult trying to find it on your own again. Go to someone you trust and ask for help.
5) He is suicidal– This is a major red flag. If he is constantly saying he wants to kill himself or has tried to do so, this is a sign that he has serious mental health issues which can be a form of manipulation. Either way, it is not your job to heal him. He needs professional help. Remember you are NOT responsible for his feelings.
6) You start to lose friends/family– Sometimes losing friends happens in relationships because your focus has changed but this is a little different. If friends/family members have warned you about this guy and you haven’t listened, this may be a reason why they are no longer in your life. This is not a good thing. They have been around longer and know you better than he does. They also have an outside perspective which is not blinded by “love”. Take their advice seriously.
7) He cheats on you– If he continuously cheats on you with no regard to your feelings, this is another form of abuse. Constantly being betrayed and being pulled back and forth is not healthy. It will damage you and may hurt any future relationships. You are worth more than that.
Please, I beg of you. If you find yourself in this type of relationship, get out now. I have had personal experience with all of these. God was my strength when I chose to leave. You can do it too. If you have any questions, feel free to email me. My email is firstname.lastname@example.org. Love is NOT supposed to hurt.
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