7 Types of Dating to Avoid
The other day as I was driving around in my old neighborhood, I was thinking back to my dating history throughout my teen years (my face became more and more distorted with each mistake…I mean memory). I thought about all the time and energy I wasted on people for no good, valid, understandable reason. There were definitely certain types of dating I wish I could’ve avoided. “Why didn’t anyone warn me?” I yelled to myself. You won’t have that excuse because I am going to share these with you now…your welcome…loll.
1) Messianic (Missionary) Dating– You are dating this person because you want them to accept Christ. I haven’t personally experienced this but I have witnessed this type of dating from close friends. This is not only deceptive but there is no guarantee they will. Our words in spreading the Gospel are a link to God. We will never know if we are the first, last, or somewhere in the middle between when they hear about God until they actually accept Christ into their life. This may actually cause more damage than good.
2) Pity Dating– You are only dating this person because you feel bad; it could be for any reason. I remember back in middle school a girl, who was two grades older than me, convinced me to date someone because he liked me and she felt bad for him. I did and broke up with him the next day. This type of dating never works out and could really end up hurting that person and putting you in an awkward/embarrassing situation.
3) Peer Pressure Dating– You are dating this person because someone told you to. There have been many times where my friends were pressuring me to date someone I didn’t like at all. My response became, “Well if you like him so much, YOU date him!”
4) Bored Dating– You are dating this person because you are bored. If you need entertainment, get a hobby NOT a boyfriend. This could get you in trouble because if you have nothing else to do temptation sneaks in and you ending doing things you may not want to do.
5) No one else to date Dating– You are dating this person because there is no one else. Be patient with the Lord. He knows who He has set for you. You might be wasting your time on Mr. Right Now and Mr. Right is going to walk right past you because you are “taken”. Think about that!
“Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord!” (Psalm 27:14)
6) Gold Digging/Sugar Daddy Dating– You are dating this person because you want something. It could be money, clothes, popularity, or whatever your little heart desires. There are several things wrong with this type of dating but ultimately you won’t be getting this stuff for free for very long. They will be expecting something from you that you may not be ready to give. If you are giving away your body, this is a modern day version of prostitution. Harsh I know but truth nonetheless.
7) Attention Dating– You are dating this person because you need attention, meaning unhealthy attention. You feel incomplete if someone isn’t there to compliment you all the time. Granted, as ladies we want to feel special and wanted which isn’t terrible but you need balance. It should be something we have and not necessarily need. Otherwise, you are going to have a lot of short-lived relationships.
Ask yourself, “Do I really want to waste great date ideas, gifts, memories, parts of myself on someone I can’t imagine marrying? If I don’t want to marry, is there a reason why I’m settling? God has the perfect person for me but am I willing to wait for him?
A couple of months before I met my husband for the first time, I had a chance to date someone that I was definitely settling for. I may have missed out on the one God had for me because I was wasting my days with Mr. Meantime versus spending time with Mr. Future. I’m glad I waited. Will you?
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